Confidence, Sacrifice, Bravery and Trust.

What are CONFIDENCE, SACRIFICE, BRAVERY and TRUST?

CONFIDENCE is saying YES to what you think is YES.

SACRIFICE is saying NO to what you think is YES.

BRAVERY is saying NO to what you think is NO.

TRUST is saying YES to what you think is NO.

Relationship is full of surprises. It's like riding a roller-coaster. No matter how hard you try to make everything okay, still.. the chances that it might go VERY well is unclear. There's always a tendency to cry or to feel pain in a relationship. What matters most is the way you deal with all the problems TOGETHER.

NEVER DEMAND, just suggest. We shouldn't demand them to do whatever we like or to impose different rules. Especially if you're not yet married.

It's not right to demand them to follow us and to act as if there are consequences later on -"Mahal mo ba ko? Itigil mo yang pagyoyosi mo ngayon na! Kung hindi, break na tayo." or "Iinom ka na naman? Wag na kase! Umuwi ka na anong oras na oh. Pag-aawayan na naman nating yang pag-inom mo na yan."

Just simply suggest - "Kaya mo bang itigil ang pagyoyosi mo? Kase masama yan sayo eh. Try mo itigil ha? Para din naman sayo yan.. hindi para sakin." or "May inuman na naman ba kayo? Pwede bang konti lang inumin mo? Dalikado kase kung uuwi kang lasing lalo na ngayong gabi. Try mo dahan dahanin ah?"

You see the difference? It's not being stupid or numb - "Nagpapa-under ka sa syota mo kaya paeasy easy ka ng approach sa kanya kase takot kang mawala siya at ikaw ang masisi dahil sa mga sinabi mo.." - It's all about being WISE enough - "Hindi ka nagpapaunder, tinuturuan mo lang din siyang maging sensitive sa ginagawa niya, in a way na beneficial din sa kanya. The way we say things could actually affect the way they are to us. We should try to approach them without being so DEMANDING. It's not healthy for a relationship if there are too many rules to follow. It's not even right for us to set rules that would control them as if we're Gods. If you're not yet married, NEVER act as if you are. Things may change, but we have the power to make these changes as well. WHO KNOWS? Maybe the way you act negatively, would cause the person to leave you behind even if he/she loves you. Or maybe the way we say things, could give the person the reason to hurt us as well. So don't exaggerate things and act as if you're married.. coz even married couple finds it hard to deal with some problems together.. What more if you're not yet married? How would you deal if you're the one giving the reason for things to happen..?

Be wise enough to make your relationship last for a long time. Handle it with CONFIDENCE, SACRIFICE if it's worh sacrifing for, be BRAVE enough to admit your mistakes. And learn to TRUST yourself and your partner. :)