Girls and Boys

WHY DO GIRLS DON'T SHUT UP and WHY DO BOYS DON'T LISTEN?

I'm not a professional to say that I know the reasons behind this menace. But I don't need to be one just to know why. All I need is an open mind , hands to type, and Biogesic (incase my head hurts).

Do you ever wonder why girls keep on telling stories while boys tend to not listen? The answer is simple. (Drum roll please?). Girls don't shut up because boys don't listen, and boys don't listen because girls don't shut up. While I was looking at my ceiling counting molecules, I thought of it. My mind randomly buffer lots of ideas and to my surprise, I concluded one thing: I AM HUNGRY. So I grab something to eat and sat on my bed, murmuring things like I was talking to Buddha.

Some girls don't shut up (Please don't curse me. I used the term "some" to save myself. Swear, I'll do your thesis!). Based on my observations, a lot of girls talk about this and that. Ask them the latest episode of Gossip Girls, and they would even dish out the latest episode of America's Next Top Model. Holy cheesecake! You don't need to watch it for yourself! Anyway, to make this entry really substantial, I would dare myself to put this in the concept of relationship. And here where the fun begins. Trust me, you'll realize why I said some girls don't shut up (Please, read the whole entry before asking your dad to kill me. Thank you).

Personally, I think girls don't shut up because they CARE. One good thing about a girl is how she handles you with care. They talk a lot, but it's nothing to be scared of. It's not a disease! It's potentially present when they were born. Although we have what we call extrovert and introvert, I would choose not to include and expand this entry because of it. It may get a little bit boring. And frankly speaking, I'm not in the mood to elaborate those personality types coz there will be no examinations later on.

Fights are included in a relationship. Believe it or not, it's a package! When you enter a relationship, expect lots of trials and problems. In times of problems, I observed some girls who don't just shut up and don't let things cool for minute. Seriously, they we're like "What the hell blah blah blah! You said blah blah blah! Then blah blah blah! What now blah blah blaahhhh!!!" and BOOM! (w/ feelings) It became Cococrunch! If words could only kill, a lot of boys are dead now. But boys, you should know why some girls are like that. At some point, open your little mind and think. They only care. They won't get mad and continue talking if you did not do something stupid and undesirable like painting your nails with flowers or wearing their bra. No, seriously, they only care for you. HOWEVER, I realized that girls keep on talking as if they know every details! When they ask, they tend to not believe. And when you say the truth, they tend to think you're telling a lie. (Insert: Natutulog ba ang Diyos).

On the other hand, some boys don't listen. I told you earlier, it is due to the never-ending over-the-counter mouth girls purchased. Boys don't listen and pretend they don't hear anything because they don't want things to get worse. But they don't realize that not listening is actually the reason behind why girls don't shut up. Talking a lot is not a man's thing. A lot of guys keep their mouth shut and pretend they are actually listening. But deep inside they we're like "You b*tch, will you please let things cool for a minute?!" Girls, you should know that some boys only listen when you let things cool for a minute. You don't have to say words like knives for boys to realize that you're angry or what. THEY LISTEN with their own ways. Trust me, when boys talk about their feelings, you should throw a party.

Let me give a concrete scenario to apply this idea. Let's take SMOKING as an example to elaborate things mentioned above. Smoking is common among boys. For some girls, it's really a turn off. In a relationship, some girls keep on asking boys to stop smoking. And when boys can't, they will get angry. And when they get angry about this, sometimes it's the cause of fighting. Girls don't shut up as if they know everything. And boys don't listen as if they can do anything by themselves. Smoking is bad, but it's an addiction some boys can't kick in a snap. You should understand that there's a process stop it. Boys, you should know that some girls don't shut up about matters concerning about you because they only care. And Girls, don't think that boys don't actually listen. They have their own ways. Some boys choose to lose an argument than to lose their girl. You should know that. 

That's it, the ingredient of boys and girls. Anyway, Buddha asked me to let my mind rest now. Thanks for reading.

YOUR LOVE NUMBER

Hindi ka tao pag hindi mo naranasan ang F.L.A.M.E.S or ung H.O.P.E na laro nung kabataan mo pa. It's a game wherein aalamin mo kung bagay kayo ng labidabs mo. Eto makabago! Ang alamin ang LOVE NUMBER mo. Simple lang naman kung paano ba to gawin. Here are the steps:

1 - A J S

2 - B K T

3 - C L U

4 - D M V

5 - E N W

6 - F O X

7 - G P Y

8 - H Q Z

9 - I R

STEPS TO FOLLOW

1. Obviously, get a pen and a paper kasi hindi mo to magagawa mentally. MAHIRAP kaya wag ka nang umasa. HAHA

2. Write down your full name. Kahit hindi na kasama ang meaning ng middle initial mo, but still isama ang middle initial. INITIAL lang ah. (eg. JORDAN U. JUBINAL)

3. Write down kung kelan ka pinanganak. Obviously, ang birthday mo. Pero! Dapat using numbers na lang. (eg. Ako, AUGUST 14 1990. Meaning, dapat ganito ang isusulat mo - 08/14/1990.)

4. Then after doing that, tumambling ka. Gawin mo to three times. Then ihampas ang ulo sa pader, dapat my dugo. :)

5. Epal ng step 4. Ok back to reality. Ganito ang gagawin mo. Diba may mga digits sa taas. Get the digit that corresponds to the letters in your complete name. (eg. J-1, O-6, R-9, D-4, A-1, N-5, U-3, J-1, U-3, B-2, I-9, N-5, A-1, L-3, so the numbers are 16941531329513.)

6. Then add each number. Oo, iaadd mo lang bawat isa. Ang simple diba? Gawin mo na! (eg. 1+6+9+4+1+5+3+1+3+2+9+5+1+3 = 53)

7. Then do the same thing with your birthday. Iadd mo lang din ung numbers. Basta iadd mo na! HAHA. (eg. 0+8+1+4+1+9+9+0 = 32)

8. After that, simply add the result of your name and birthday. (eg. 53+32 = 85)

9. So after mo makuha ung sagot, just simply add 3. Bakit 3? Well it's believed to be the LOVE NUMBER. Basta mag-add ka ng 3. Ayoko na magexplain pa. AHAHAHA!! (eg. 85+3 = 88)

10. Ngayon nakuha mo na yung resulta, matuwa ka na dahil malapit ka na matapos. AHAHA. Take a break. Inhale.. exhale.. then magyosi break ka muna kung nagyoyosi ka. AHAHA! :)

11. After taking a break (HEHE. :P), Just simply add the digits in the final answer. Just add it until isang digit na lang ang matira. (eg. 8+8 = 16. 1+6 = 7)

Ok that's all! My LOVE NUMBER IS 7. Gawin mo lang din ung same procedure sa complete name and birthday ng labidabs mo, prospek mo or crush mo. And when nagawa mo na at parehas kayo ng LOVE NUMBER, it is said to be that you are meant to be or you're compatible with each other so much. :) ARTE? ahaha! Kase diba nga, the chance of having the same number is not that high kase magkaiba kayo ng name at birthday. So meant to be kayo pag parehas kayo ng LOVE NUMBER. DO IT! IT'S FUN! :)

NOTE: Para mas maganda ang daloy ng paghahanap mo ng LOVE NUMBER niyo, isipin mo lang mismo yung tao na gusto mo. :) I bet that you're actually thinking about him/her right now. HAHA. :P ENJOY!

Sweet Nothings

When you need to show how much you love your girl, you don't have to push yourself to the limit of being so dumb doing everything just to please her. Be as simple as you are, you don't have to be someone you're not. Trust me, it's better to say words from your heart, than to do some actions with your brain and only your brain. Remember, women fall in love with their ears. Simple words from the bottom of your heart are enough to let her feel your love.

Simple yet sweet things that a boy can do for a girl:

1. Know what are the thing that she don't like, and just be all the things that she would like.
2. Don't just ask her what completes her day, be the one who completes her life.
3. You may not be the one she's wishing for, but you could be the one she thought she would never have.
4. Don't overprotect her with your rules and power, just embrace her with your arms where she could find security and comfort.
5. Don't just give your time loving her, you have forever and a lifetime to be with her. 
6. Choose to lose in an argument, than to lose your girl.
7. Don't just respect her because she's your girl, respect her because she's a lady.
8. Doubt her words if you need to, but trust her actions coz it's all that counts.
9. Don't just forgive and forget, learn to understand and accept.
10. Don't count goodbyes, count the times when she comes back.
11. Don't be afraid to show your weakness, just show to her that she's your strenght.
12. Don't just give her everything that she wants, be everything that she needs.
13. Tell her that you WANT her by your side, and you NEED her in your life.
14. Tell her that you don't need a million reason to keep her, you just need one good reason not to let her go.
15. Hold her hands, and be the hand that lifts her veil.

A man don't need to be a superman just to do all the impossibles. Just like in a typical love story; simple thoughts, words and actions are enough for her to say "I LOVE YOU TOO..." So why do you have to worry doing everything to make her yours? When you got forever to make her fall in love over and over again. :)

Mind your Heart.

Minsan, kahit ayaw mo at di mo sinasadya, makakasira ka ng relasyon ng iba. Minsan, kahit na may girlfriend o boyfriend ka, hindi mo maiiwasang magkagusto o mainlove sa iba. At kadalasan, kahit mahal niyo ang isa't isa, hindi pwedeng maging kayo dahil nakatali kayo sa iba. Ganyan maglaro ang pag-ibig. Kahit na ang pinakamadiskarte o pinakamatalinong tao sa mundo, hindi maiiwasang masaktan kapag nagmahal.

Sa buhay mo, natural na ang madapa, basta babangon ka. Walang taong nadapa na habambuhay na nakahandusay sa lupa, at walang taong bumangon na hindi nadapa ulit. Ganyan pag nagmamahal, hindi pwedeng hindi ka masasaktan. Magkadikit na yan. Kahit lumuhod ka diyan sa bahay niyo papunta sa simbahan ng Baclaran, kakadasal na sana hindi ka masaktan, hinding hindi mangyayari yun, dahil sa masasaktan at masasaktan ka pa rin KUNG nagmamahal ka ng totoo.

Mabait ang Diyos, alam niya ang ginagawa niya at alam niya kung paano niya tayo ginawa. Magkahiwalay na ginawa ng Diyos ang UTAK at PUSO ng tao. Ginawa ang utak para MAG ISIP, ginawa ang puso para MAGMAHAL.Ginawa ang utak para maisip nating gamitin ang puso para magmahal. Pero kung mapapansin niyo, nilagay ang utak na mas mataas kesa sa puso, para ipaalala satin na hindi sa lahat ng pagkakataon, dapat unahin ang puso kesa sa utak. Kahit sabihin mong dapat gamitin ang puso pag tayo ay nagmamahal at hindi ang utak, isipin mo nalang.. "God placed our heart at the LEFT side of our body, that's why it's not always RIGHT." Ginawa ang utak para malaman natin ang pagkakaiba ng tama sa mali, at oo sa hindi. Yan ang hindi kayang gawin ng puso, dahil para sa puso.. lahat tama at walang hindi. Ginawa ang puso para maramdaman natin ang TAMA, ginawa ang utak para maisip natin ang MALI. Ang problema lang kasi sating mga tao, habang ginagamit ang puso para magmahal, mas lalong kumikitid ang utak. Puso lang ang may kakayahang makaramdam ng sakit na dulot ng pagmamahal. Kaya nga magkahiwalay silang ginawa, para maisip nating protektahan ang puso. Kaya gamitin ang utak, dahil lang yan ang may kakayahang makaisip kung tama o mali na ang ginagawa ng ating puso.

Sometimes, there are things that you don't want to hold on, but you can't let go. Bakit? Dahil alam ng utak na MALI na ang magpakatanga ka pa, at ramdam ng puso na TAMA na ipagpatuloy pa. Kaya ayaw nating bitawan kahit alam nating mali. At kaya gusto nating ipagpatuloy kahit alam nating mahirap. Pero teka.. alam niyo ba kung bakit dalawa kamay ng tao? Simple lang. Isa sa RIGHT side, para ipaalala sating kunin at gawin ang mga bagay na TAMA na magpapasaya satin. At isa sa LEFT, para ipaalala sating IWAN at kalimutan ang mga bagay na nagpapalungkot satin. One on the right side to HOLD ON, and one on the left side to LET GO. Dapat matuto tayong ibalance ang buhay natin, dahil tayo lang din naman mismo ang nagpapasaya at nagpapahirap sa buhay natin.

Alam niyo din ba kung bakit hindi sabay na humahakbang ang mga paa ng tao kapag naglalakad? Hindi lang para hindi tayo magmukhang tanga, kundi para ipaalala sa atin na sa bawat hakbang na ginagawa ng isa nating paa, may chance pang makabalik tayo sa pwesto natin ng ligtas dahil maiiwan sa likod ang isa nating paa. Kung sabay silang hahakbang habang tayo ay naglalakad, matututo na tayong magdalawang isip kung babalik pa ba tayo sa pwesto natin dahil walang kasiguraduhan na ligtas tayong makakabalik. Ganyan din sa buhay, minsan kelangan mong umatras sa mga bagay kapag alam mo na hindi na magandang ipagpatuloy pa. Minsan kase, may pagkakataon na napipilitan tayong ipagpatuloy ang isang bagay dahil nasimulan na natin. "It's easy to start SOMETHING, but it's hard to finish EVERYTHING." Kaya nga dapat, when you take the risk, be sure that it's worth the risk. Hindi ka tanga, kaya wag kang magpapakatanga. Hindi ka bobo, kaya magisip ka.

Mabait ang Diyos. Kaya wag kang mag-iisip na ikaw na ang pinakawalang kwentang tao sa mundo, na ikaw ang pinakapanget na nilalang o ikaw ang pinakamalas na tao dito sa mundo. Lahat ng tao nagkakaproblema. Walang taong nabuhay na ni minsan hindi nasaktan. Kung pakiramdam mo na MALAS ka, isipin mo na lang na SWERTE ka kase buhay ka. Smile. :D Life is LOVE.

Confidence, Sacrifice, Bravery and Trust.

What are CONFIDENCE, SACRIFICE, BRAVERY and TRUST?

CONFIDENCE is saying YES to what you think is YES.

SACRIFICE is saying NO to what you think is YES.

BRAVERY is saying NO to what you think is NO.

TRUST is saying YES to what you think is NO.

Relationship is full of surprises. It's like riding a roller-coaster. No matter how hard you try to make everything okay, still.. the chances that it might go VERY well is unclear. There's always a tendency to cry or to feel pain in a relationship. What matters most is the way you deal with all the problems TOGETHER.

NEVER DEMAND, just suggest. We shouldn't demand them to do whatever we like or to impose different rules. Especially if you're not yet married.

It's not right to demand them to follow us and to act as if there are consequences later on -"Mahal mo ba ko? Itigil mo yang pagyoyosi mo ngayon na! Kung hindi, break na tayo." or "Iinom ka na naman? Wag na kase! Umuwi ka na anong oras na oh. Pag-aawayan na naman nating yang pag-inom mo na yan."

Just simply suggest - "Kaya mo bang itigil ang pagyoyosi mo? Kase masama yan sayo eh. Try mo itigil ha? Para din naman sayo yan.. hindi para sakin." or "May inuman na naman ba kayo? Pwede bang konti lang inumin mo? Dalikado kase kung uuwi kang lasing lalo na ngayong gabi. Try mo dahan dahanin ah?"

You see the difference? It's not being stupid or numb - "Nagpapa-under ka sa syota mo kaya paeasy easy ka ng approach sa kanya kase takot kang mawala siya at ikaw ang masisi dahil sa mga sinabi mo.." - It's all about being WISE enough - "Hindi ka nagpapaunder, tinuturuan mo lang din siyang maging sensitive sa ginagawa niya, in a way na beneficial din sa kanya. The way we say things could actually affect the way they are to us. We should try to approach them without being so DEMANDING. It's not healthy for a relationship if there are too many rules to follow. It's not even right for us to set rules that would control them as if we're Gods. If you're not yet married, NEVER act as if you are. Things may change, but we have the power to make these changes as well. WHO KNOWS? Maybe the way you act negatively, would cause the person to leave you behind even if he/she loves you. Or maybe the way we say things, could give the person the reason to hurt us as well. So don't exaggerate things and act as if you're married.. coz even married couple finds it hard to deal with some problems together.. What more if you're not yet married? How would you deal if you're the one giving the reason for things to happen..?

Be wise enough to make your relationship last for a long time. Handle it with CONFIDENCE, SACRIFICE if it's worh sacrifing for, be BRAVE enough to admit your mistakes. And learn to TRUST yourself and your partner. :)

How Powerful Are Prayers?

"Prayers are land-line to heaven." 

Being hopeless romantic sucks, but prayers can save you from yourself. 

Falling in love is priceless - the feelings, happiness, smiles, giggles, the way she/he looked at you, the way she/he stares at you.. it all feels sooo damn good. When I was younger, I admit that I was once a hopeless romantic. Who in the world never felt like one? If there is, whoever you are.. well congratulations! You're on my list to kill. (Just kidding... No, I'm serious).

Let me tell you a story, a true story, so true that I want to make it a movie, or a short film. When I share this story with friends, they were like "Awww. That's sweet!" and I was like "Okay, how much do I need to pay you guys?". But seriously, until now I am very thankful with what I got, rather than what I really wanted.

They say, if God's answer is negative, the reason is affirmative. I salute with that. I believe God has plans for all of us. We just have to wait. It doesn't mean that if it did not happen, it won't happen. There are right time for right things at the right places. Everything are planned to be there, you just need to be patient and faithful. 

So here's my story. A story until now, I keep a secret. 

I once fell in love with a person named "Booger" (Note: Not the real name, and I prefer this name. It's cute! Though it sound disgusting). Booger and I had been good friends in my imaginary world. Yes, I feel like we're really close but that's just in the world created by my little brain. The moment I saw Booger, everything in my surrounding stopped, and I was like moving - as a result.. it freaked me out. Seriously, when I saw Booger, my world started changing and I felt a sudden change in me - Oh my Jesus Christ! I'M IN LOVE. The feeling was uncontrollable. Everytime Booger was around -  I stuttered, I couldn't stop smiling, I couldn't stop being dramatic, I couldn't stop being the center of attention, I couldn't stop looking at Booger, and I couldn't stop being in love. It's really true, when you fell in love, it feels so damn good. But when you fell in love with the wrong person.. well, that's a different story. I asked God to give Booger to me, but I felt like I need to do something rather than waiting alone. (Applying the concept of " Nasa Diyos ang Awa, Nasa Tao ang Gawa). 

I won't make this part long, coz it might get a little boring. Here's a list of what I did before to catch Booger's attention and to at least push destiny to bear with me:

• I always wait for Booger's service to arrive from school. I sat in front of their house and pretend looking at how birds fly and thinking how to solve Philippines' problem. And that's everyday, no exemption to the rule even if I am sick or what. I have to see Booger or else I might die. I remember calling Booger's service as "Service ng mga Bangkay", coz they all appear like dead creatures inside. They were all sleeping like they worked for 54 hours straight."
• I have my freedom notebook. It's a compilation of my unspoken feelings for Booger.
• Everything Booger gave to me, I considered it all to be a treasure. I put in a small box with all the garbage from Booger (the first one was the TOSTILLAZ wrapper, and eversince, it's my favorite junk food.)
• I always tell myself "I will never go home until I saw Booger straight from the eyes, which I managed to experience. Plus, it literally kill me everyday when Booger smiled at me. Seriously. Hahahaha!
• I have my theme song for Booger. You can search and listen to it. It's the most applicable song at that time. (Ewan ko - Soapdish)
• And lastly, everytime I go to mass, I always pray for Booger to fall in love with me, and be mine.

But I felt like something was missing. Something was not right. I have to push myself to the limit. I had to. So, with the blessings of all the elements of the world, I began asking and wishing for what seems to be impossible.

• I asked for signs like date, color, numbers, events and circumstances.
• I wished to be with Booger for not less than 10 minutes a day. We hadn't been together with each other for that long. And that's serious. We never had been together to talk, catch up with each other or whatever thing to do. We're good friends, but not as close as you imagine.
• I wished Booger to look at me in my eyes like I'm the only person around. Haha!
• I wished we could spend more time during weekends.
• I wished Booger to tell me everything I need to know in my life. Basically I want Booger to be the one teaching me how to live my life.
• I wished to see Booger every single day of my life.
• And lastly, I wanted Booger to fall in love with me as well.

Having all these in my mind, I realized I had been wishing for what seems to be impossible to have. Booger's standards were really high and I am not meant to be that person. I felt wishing for something that's never gonna happen in my life. But still I did wish for it all. After all, what do I have to lose anyway?

However, I got tired of waiting. Nothing was changing, except my complexion due to sun exposure during C.A.T. Plus, I realized I've been outdated with the latest news about my friends. I focused more with what I want, and ignored what I really had in my life. I was so stupid, ignorant, imbecile, moron, insolent.. (C'monnn Dan, think of other negative adjectives to pretend you are intelligent! :P)

October 2, 2003, the very first time Booger smiled at me, was the best day of my life. So ever since I started to make it as my OWN anniversary and make 2 as my lucky number. (How stupid and hopeless could I get?!) I had been loving Booger for 3 years in a row without asking anything in return. And that's serious. I devoted my time and effort for something I wouldn't have in my life. So later on I realized to just give up and continue living. After all, even if I move on or what, the world would not slow down for me, I still got to get moving.

I decided to give up and ignore my feelings. I had to. I had been so focused with Booger and forgot that I have my own life to deal with. So yeah, I diminished every single memory I have, including the freedom notebook I kept for a long time. 

After years, I began renewing myself. Booger and I, well we're still the same. It was night of Dec 1 (I forgot the year, but of course I remember the date coz I had written it), I realized I missed Booger. I thought of all the things I did for Booger, and I couldn't help but just to laugh at myself. I prayed that night. I told God "Please Papa God, Dec 2 bukas. Alam mo naman favorite number ko ang 2 diba? Sana makita ko si Booger or sana may mangyare man lang na kakaiba bukas, Pakita lang ni Booger na importante ako, kahit sa anong paraan, okay na ko. Thank you." I prayed for something I want. It's just a reward for myself for being so strong in moving on without anything in return. So why not just a little twist for my day? After all, it's been a while.

The next morning, our maid woke me up. She said that someone's waiting for me outside. That time I wasn't in the mood to wake up and walk. I knew it would be those friends of mine who wanted to spend the day in our house. But still I checked it. And what do I saw? It's Booger, smiling and waiting outside. :)

I went down after I brushed my teeth. I couldn't stop smiling. 

       "Oh bakit ka andito?" Saying while I was smiling with all my heart.

I got the simplest yet romantic answer in my entire existence..

       Booger said, "Ah wala.. namiss lang kita." 

That moment, I died. But I have to be really alive to keep the conversation going. I was so happy! And I couldn't help but just smile all the time. Then Booger said, "Oh sige, napadaan lang talaga ako kase namiss kita."

You know what, based on my own experience, I can tell you guys.. GOD ANSWERS OUR PRAYERS. I found myself experiencing what I have been wishing for, but the other way around (Hehe.) Before I was asking for some signs like dates and colors, Now it seems that I dont have to do it anymore. Before, I wanted Booger to stay with me for at least not less than 10mins, Now, Booger spend time with me more than an hour and a day is not enough for us to talk and be together. Before, I wanted Booger to see me like I was the only person around, Now I'm the only one Booger can lean on when things go wrong and answers are hard to find. I was praying that we could spend more time together on Saturdays and Sundays coz we dont have any classes. Now we spend more time not only on weekends, but also during weekdays even if we do have classes the next day. If before I was wishing Booger can look at me straight into my eyes, Now, Booger won't only look at me in the eyes but can also tell me if my face is dirty. (Only True Friends Will Tell You If Your Face Is Dirty. Remember that.) If before I was wishing to see Booger everyday, Now I don't need to wish for that, i will be able to see Booger if I wanted to. I just have to simply send a text "wala ako kasama. san ka?" the most often reply I would received "teka, puntahan kita." And If before I was wishing Booger to love me.. nahhh.. I think I don't have to. I can feel the love even if its not the kind of love I had wished for.

My prayers were not answered the way I want it to be, but I got blessings that I never expected to have. After so long of praying and waiting, we're now together. Not as lovers, but BEST FRIENDS. Yes, we are now best of friends. No commitments, no break ups. Pure love, mutual love and unconditional love. It's better than being together, at least I found a great friend, and God gave me what I need to have - someone to rely on when things go wrong, and someone in my life who's a living proof that GOD answers prayers.